The Romance


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NEW DATING SHOW, ” The Romance”. Real dating….Real people…no real drama.
The first Episode will be airing the week of January 13th and the final
Episode airing the week of Valentine’s Day ! “The Romance “will be televised
on COX/Time Warner Channel 4 in San Diego to 1. 5 million households, the
world wide web and syndicated to over 16 million households nationally.

If you would like to be a contestant please go to the


The Romance


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I am proud to announce I have been selected to be a panelist / judge on a new dating / reality show named “The Romance ” “The Romance” will premiere at 8 p.m. on Tuesday, Nov. 19, on San Diego’s Channel Four, through both Cox and Time Warner Cable providers . The emphasis of the show is people dating in real life situations. Kim Seltzer a Therapist, Dating and Makeover Expert from LA will also be a judge on the show along with Kelly Emberg, a former supermodel and host of her own show “model gardener.” Plus surprise celebrity guests. We will be shooting the show here in San Diego at many popular locations. Dating contestant auditions are Saturday October 19th.

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Don’t do dinner for first dates.

There is nothing worse than getting stuck at a long dinner with someone for whom you just don’t like, especially since dinner doesn’t have any outs. Not Alone but Lonely
For this reason, I always advise my clients that first dates be planned for drinks only. This keeps the pressure off, because you always have the opportunity to leave after one drink if you aren’t feeling it. Or you can stay for a second drink if you are. Plus we aren’t the most attractive when we eat anyway.

Dating During Divorce


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People have mixed feelings about dating while going through the divorce process. While dating someone new can boost your confidence after a break-up, should you wait until the divorce is officially over before seeking out someone new?

Returning to the single life is a major adjustment. However, it also offers an exciting second chance at love. Some people have no issues dating before the divorce is final. Others would rather sign the divorce papers before moving ahead. And still others think they won’t date until the divorce is finalized, but they change their mind when they meet someone new. You just never know when fate will intervene and a new special person will come along.

Here are some reasons that dating during divorce may be the right choice for you:

You Feel More Positive: Dating will keep your mind off of the negative aspects of divorce. It will get you in an upbeat frame of mind.


You Can Relax More: You have probably been under a lot of pressure. Dating someone new gives you the opportunity to relax more.


You’re Able To Open Up: When you’re dating, you’re much more open and social.


You Make New Contacts: The person you’re dating is sure to have friends and it will create a whole new network of people for you.


You Can Renew Your Sex Life: In the final stages of your marriage, there was probably no sexual contact. Now you’re free to enjoy what you’ve been missing.


You Broaden Your Horizons: You will probably do things that you haven’t done in a long time now that you’re single. Be open to going on dates to art galleries, concerts and other cultural events. You can also go out with people that are in totally different worlds than the married world you were in.


Despite the above benefits of dating during divorce, you simply may not be ready to do so. Here are some reasons dating during divorce may not be right for you:


You Are Not Healed Yet: You may think that you’re ready to date, but you might not be healed yet emotionally. It is beneficial to work through any unsettled issues before taking on a new love interest.


You Are Worried About the Kids: Dating before the divorce is final may not be best for your kids. Sure you can be discrete, but you don’t want to be distracted from their needs.


You Would Like to Be More Financially Secure: Dating someone new can be expensive. You may need some time to get your finances settled after the divorce before you go on some nights out on the town.


You Want to Spend Some Time Alone: You may want be alone for a bit and dating may not allow for that. You can do things you haven’t done for a while or see friends you haven’t seen.


You May Be Judged: People who are against dating until the divorce is official may judge and gossip about you for moving forward now.


You’d Rather Date Someone Who Is a Parent: You may want to wait to meet someone else who is a single parent so you can relate to each other.



Author, divorce blogger and divorce party planner







What is GOOD SEX?


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That’s a funny question , because it has sooooo many answers.

I remember hearing stories over the years of women saying what great sex they had..and your thinking “really”…you don’t have to ask them , because you know they are going to tell you anyway…whats the point of having “great Sex” if you cant tell anyone?, (is what they are thinking)…and you know they are full of S%^&…but we listen anyway…because I don’t think they know what great sex is. Ignorance is seriously bliss. Since they have nothing to compare it to, everything feels fantastic , so they think or try to convince themselves.

Geez ..the stories…the dressing up and role playing ,the weird toys, the hot wax …doesn’t that hurt? ….the comments they say while making bad porn noises….that’s usually when I want to hide behind my pillow. The incense they light , and the things that their partner told them to say to them. And of course they had 12 orgasms…uh huh right! I think that they were trying to convince me and everyone else they told how great their weird night was.

Bad sex doesn’t become Bad Sex until you’ve actually had good sex. In fact, you could live your entire life thinking you were having the most mind-blowing sex until you meet someone who actually knows what they’re doing, and then you’re like, What the heck ?

So what is good sex?

Well to you it might be the thigh highs and George Micheal ” I want your sex” playing in the background… or it could be because you love someone so much that just being with them minus all the props feels like you good never imagine yourself being anywhere else. Plus you could never or would never tell a soul about how great it is, there is no words to describe it. The moment is truly sacred.


We all have Urges to cheat…can you resist yours?


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Temptation is natural, humans are generally weak…but you have to, for you and your partner resist the temptation to cheat.

Why is the urge there? Typically the urge is there because you aren’t having enough sex in your own relationship or your life has gotten so monotonous, boring , too much of a routine. All humans tend to take life for granted, forgetting what brought us to the relationship to begin with. You have to work at a relationship, you really do. 

If the urge is there , which usually happens with one person who sets you off, avoidance is the first key. Don’t get caught up validating your urge with someone at the office or gym because you feel close to them or are sexually attracted. You have to look down the road and step out of the moment to see if going through with this is worth the worst possible consequences.

If your finding yourself constantly weak in this area than evaluate what is really going on…..because cheating can cause such devastation in a relationship. Maybe just maybe you aren’t with the right person…..It happens.

Don’t take your partner for granted, EVER. Make sure you do the little things that you did in the beginning that brought you close. Have a healthy sex life… a must. This is the one thing that makes us feel the most desired and loved.cheating-start-early

“No one falls in love by choice, it is by chance. No one stays in love by chance its by work. And no one falls out of love by chance, it is by choice”