15 Sunday Dec 2013
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Coming this January to San Diego Channel 4 COX and Time Warner Cable TV and the world wide web, the new television program and reality TV competition that looks at what dating, romance and falling in love is REALLY LIKE.
27 Monday May 2013
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Don’t do dinner for first dates.
There is nothing worse than getting stuck at a long dinner with someone for whom you just don’t like, especially since dinner doesn’t have any outs. 
For this reason, I always advise my clients that first dates be planned for drinks only. This keeps the pressure off, because you always have the opportunity to leave after one drink if you aren’t feeling it. Or you can stay for a second drink if you are. Plus we aren’t the most attractive when we eat anyway.
15 Wednesday May 2013
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20 Saturday Apr 2013
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19 Friday Apr 2013
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People have mixed feelings about dating while going through the divorce process. While dating someone new can boost your confidence after a break-up, should you wait until the divorce is officially over before seeking out someone new?
Returning to the single life is a major adjustment. However, it also offers an exciting second chance at love. Some people have no issues dating before the divorce is final. Others would rather sign the divorce papers before moving ahead. And still others think they won’t date until the divorce is finalized, but they change their mind when they meet someone new. You just never know when fate will intervene and a new special person will come along.
Here are some reasons that dating during divorce may be the right choice for you:
You Feel More Positive: Dating will keep your mind off of the negative aspects of divorce. It will get you in an upbeat frame of mind.
You Can Relax More: You have probably been under a lot of pressure. Dating someone new gives you the opportunity to relax more.
You’re Able To Open Up: When you’re dating, you’re much more open and social.
You Make New Contacts: The person you’re dating is sure to have friends and it will create a whole new network of people for you.
You Can Renew Your Sex Life: In the final stages of your marriage, there was probably no sexual contact. Now you’re free to enjoy what you’ve been missing.
You Broaden Your Horizons: You will probably do things that you haven’t done in a long time now that you’re single. Be open to going on dates to art galleries, concerts and other cultural events. You can also go out with people that are in totally different worlds than the married world you were in.
Despite the above benefits of dating during divorce, you simply may not be ready to do so. Here are some reasons dating during divorce may not be right for you:
You Are Not Healed Yet: You may think that you’re ready to date, but you might not be healed yet emotionally. It is beneficial to work through any unsettled issues before taking on a new love interest.
You Are Worried About the Kids: Dating before the divorce is final may not be best for your kids. Sure you can be discrete, but you don’t want to be distracted from their needs.
You Would Like to Be More Financially Secure: Dating someone new can be expensive. You may need some time to get your finances settled after the divorce before you go on some nights out on the town.
You Want to Spend Some Time Alone: You may want be alone for a bit and dating may not allow for that. You can do things you haven’t done for a while or see friends you haven’t seen.
You May Be Judged: People who are against dating until the divorce is official may judge and gossip about you for moving forward now.
You’d Rather Date Someone Who Is a Parent: You may want to wait to meet someone else who is a single parent so you can relate to each other.
19 Tuesday Mar 2013
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That’s a funny question , because it has sooooo many answers.
I remember hearing stories over the years of women saying what great sex they had..and your thinking “really”…you don’t have to ask them , because you know they are going to tell you anyway…whats the point of having “great Sex” if you cant tell anyone?, (is what they are thinking)…and you know they are full of S%^&…but we listen anyway…because I don’t think they know what great sex is. Ignorance is seriously bliss. Since they have nothing to compare it to, everything feels fantastic , so they think or try to convince themselves.
Geez ..the stories…the dressing up and role playing ,the weird toys, the hot wax …doesn’t that hurt? ….the comments they say while making bad porn noises….that’s usually when I want to hide behind my pillow. The incense they light , and the things that their partner told them to say to them. And of course they had 12 orgasms…uh huh right! I think that they were trying to convince me and everyone else they told how great their weird night was.
Bad sex doesn’t become Bad Sex until you’ve actually had good sex. In fact, you could live your entire life thinking you were having the most mind-blowing sex until you meet someone who actually knows what they’re doing, and then you’re like, What the heck ?
So what is good sex?
Well to you it might be the thigh highs and George Micheal ” I want your sex” playing in the background… or it could be because you love someone so much that just being with them minus all the props feels like you good never imagine yourself being anywhere else. Plus you could never or would never tell a soul about how great it is, there is no words to describe it. The moment is truly sacred.
07 Thursday Mar 2013
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Temptation is natural, humans are generally weak…but you have to, for you and your partner resist the temptation to cheat.
Why is the urge there? Typically the urge is there because you aren’t having enough sex in your own relationship or your life has gotten so monotonous, boring , too much of a routine. All humans tend to take life for granted, forgetting what brought us to the relationship to begin with. You have to work at a relationship, you really do.
If the urge is there , which usually happens with one person who sets you off, avoidance is the first key. Don’t get caught up validating your urge with someone at the office or gym because you feel close to them or are sexually attracted. You have to look down the road and step out of the moment to see if going through with this is worth the worst possible consequences.
If your finding yourself constantly weak in this area than evaluate what is really going on…..because cheating can cause such devastation in a relationship. Maybe just maybe you aren’t with the right person…..It happens.
Don’t take your partner for granted, EVER. Make sure you do the little things that you did in the beginning that brought you close. Have a healthy sex life…..is a must. This is the one thing that makes us feel the most desired and loved.
“No one falls in love by choice, it is by chance. No one stays in love by chance its by work. And no one falls out of love by chance, it is by choice”
-Unknown
11 Friday Jan 2013
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Everyone has an idea who they feel the type of person they should be with. A guy sees a beautiful girl , he wants her. A girl sees a handsome guy, she wants him..But can they get the person they want?…..Of course
…Acknowledge that there’s a wide variety of positive qualities. These days, when someone refers to a man or woman as a “10” or a “5,” of course they’re talking about looks. What that unfortunate numerical rating doesn’t take into consideration are the myriad unseen qualities a person might have to offer—intelligence, sense of humor, generosity, dependability, and so on. Remind yourself that appearance is just one among many traits to evaluate. I believe the barriers in place are only those created in the mind.
I know we all know how Howard stern gets that beautiful girl…I’m sure its not cause he has a great personality. Since he gets a great looking girl is she out of his league or is he out of her league because he is wealthy and famous? Howard Stern intellectually is probably out of a lot of our leagues, but he probably settled at times because he wants HOT….There is a trade off .
So is anyone out of anyone’s league? No Way…..We all know what we want , and no one can tell us differently. If your a 6 and you want a 10 , get a 10. And if you need help finding a 10…..I will help you find a 10…Who says your a 6 anyway? I think you are a 10.
09 Sunday Dec 2012
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You see it on TV all the time – a divorced couple hopping into the
sack for some afternoon delight. There’s even a song devoted to divorce sex from the television show “Cougar Town,” with the line: “It’s the best….but you’ll regret….sex with your ex…..”
Nobody talks about it but everybody’s doing it
Despite
how common it is, it’s not easy finding much research done on divorcing
and divorced couples getting that final hook up. There’s a lot out
there about dating after a divorce, but there isn’t much exploration of
that dirty little window of time between separation and divorce or just
after your divorce when for lots of all-too-human reasons a lot of
people fall back into old, familiar patterns, back into old, comforting
sexual routines with their exes. I suspect the lack of public
conversation is because most folks don’t want to talk about it. They just want to do it. The secrecy, the absurdity, the naughtiness is what makes it so hot.
Luckily,
people tell me stuff. So gathering all of my expert investigative
reporting skills I have discovered certain patterns that emerge in
ex-sex that I think are worth noting. See if any of these sound
familiar:
Hot Hate Sex: You’ve got two people who have a tremendous amount of energy and chemistry between them that looks and feels like hate.
They
trash talk each other endlessly to anyone who will listen (alas, most
often the kids) and seem stuck in the white-hot heat and intensity of
divorce in its earliest and meanest phase. OF COURSE THE SEX IS HOT.
Basically, you’ve got two adolescents rampaging on the hormonally
adolescent-like fumes of grief, rage, relief, terror and revenge.
It can happen once and flame out. Or it can sizzle for a while, until
it crashes. Both ways end badly. You can’t sustain it. All the old
wounds and rawness and resentments come tumbling out from under the
sheets with you. Usually one person (the woman) has harbored some tiny
fantasy that you might, despite it all, be able to get back together now
that the sex is hot and when that inevitably doesn’t happen, and things
inevitably get ugly again, it hurts all the more. Again.
Published on February 23, 2012 by Pamela Cytrynbaum in Because I’m the Mom
24 Saturday Nov 2012
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There are so many choices for everything these days …. Realtors, Doctors, Hairdressers, and even Matchmakers. Like with anything you choose, you want what is right for you. This belief should also apply when picking a Matchmaker. You need to have faith in the Matchmaker , and make sure they get you What you want. Which is really what it boils down to, What you want. You don’t want someone telling you that your choices are wrong , you want someone to know what you are attracted to, and what type of person is going to make you release Adrenaline and Dopamine when you see them. Your Matchmaker has to understand you and has to think like you .Because falling in love isn’t planned , it just happens. Its all in the hormones.
