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Leave A Little Mystery!!!!

08 Friday Feb 2013

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A Lot of matchmakers and matchmaking services have different ways they first make a introduction between people. Most just send photos and see which person clicks and then they give the phone number to the one person they want to meet.

I personally don’t like this way I think you should meet before you talk, of course after you have seen photos and your matchmaker feels this person is a good candidate for you. I feel its odd to just call someone you don’t know and expect to get the butterflies that are supposed to happen when you first see someone. When you are out in the world and you see someone that you are attracted to you don’t call them first. You react to the hormones that are going off and turn you on when you look at them.

Like anything else you need to find the service or Matchmaker that works for you , and that gives you a chance to meet someone in the most natural way……..this in the end will give you the best results .

I will put in a lot of time to find someone that you will want to meet …. the excitement you feel before you meet them is well worth the wait. IMG_9406 (2)

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Sex with your ex

09 Sunday Dec 2012

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You see it on TV all the time – a divorced couple hopping into the
sack for some afternoon delight. There’s even a song devoted to divorce sex from the television show “Cougar Town,” with the line: “It’s the best….but you’ll regret….sex with your ex…..”

Nobody talks about it but everybody’s doing it

Despite
how common it is, it’s not easy finding much research done on divorcing
and divorced couples getting that final hook up. There’s a lot out
there about dating after a divorce, but there isn’t much exploration of
that dirty little window of time between separation and divorce or just
after your divorce when for lots of all-too-human reasons a lot of
people fall back into old, familiar patterns, back into old, comforting
sexual routines with their exes. I suspect the lack of public
conversation is because most folks don’t want to talk about it. They just want to do it. The secrecy, the absurdity, the naughtiness is what makes it so hot.

Luckily,
people tell me stuff. So gathering all of my expert investigative
reporting skills I have discovered certain patterns that emerge in
ex-sex that I think are worth noting. See if any of these sound
familiar:

Hot Hate Sex: You’ve got two people who have a tremendous amount of energy and chemistry between them that looks and feels like hate.
They
trash talk each other endlessly to anyone who will listen (alas, most
often the kids) and seem stuck in the white-hot heat and intensity of
divorce in its earliest and meanest phase. OF COURSE THE SEX IS HOT.
Basically, you’ve got two adolescents rampaging on the hormonally
adolescent-like fumes of grief, rage, relief, terror and revenge.
It can happen once and flame out. Or it can sizzle for a while, until
it crashes. Both ways end badly. You can’t sustain it. All the old
wounds and rawness and resentments come tumbling out from under the
sheets with you. Usually one person (the woman) has harbored some tiny
fantasy that you might, despite it all, be able to get back together now
that the sex is hot and when that inevitably doesn’t happen, and things
inevitably get ugly again, it hurts all the more. Again.

Published on February 23, 2012 by Pamela Cytrynbaum in Because I’m the Mom

Chemical Attraction

24 Saturday Nov 2012

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There are so many choices for everything these days …. Realtors, Doctors, Hairdressers, and even Matchmakers. Like with anything you choose, you want what is right for you. This belief should also apply when picking a Matchmaker. You need to have faith in the Matchmaker , and make sure they get you What you want. Which is really what it boils down to, What you want. You don’t want someone telling you that your choices are wrong , you want someone to know what you are attracted to, and what type of person is going to make you release Adrenaline and Dopamine when you see them. Your Matchmaker has to understand you and has to think like you .Because falling in love isn’t planned , it just happens. Its all in the hormones.

Too much Too soon

08 Thursday Nov 2012

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How much is too much to disclose on a first date? How much should you reveal when entering a new relationship? I am personally not a big fan of letting it all out, although the wine might disagree. I think we have to remember that too much info is a turn off. You shouldn’t misinterpret a few head nods or a properly timed response as interest. And don’t fool yourself into thinking that it is a good idea to talk about your ex-girlfriend, who you still find sleeping on your couch every once in awhile. The attractive man sitting across from you is probably more interested in seeing you clad in leather than how “absolutely adorable” your daughter looked as pumpkin last halloween. Jersey Shore is not mysterious and fantasy football is not seductive. The human mind has a tendency to fill in the blanks with positive traits. Make sure there are some blanks left to be filled in.

We all have a past. Some more colorful than others. No matter how interesting you think you are, don’t forget that getting to know someone is just that. Get to know THEM. It takes time, a long time, to really know someone. Don’t rush. It is a first date, not a storytelling contest.  My personal opinion is that a Brazilian bathing suit is better than a g-string. You need to leave a little for the imagination.

Matchmaker Matchmaker make me a match

28 Sunday Oct 2012

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 Misconceptions of matchmakers:

“Only millionaires use matchmakers” Wrong! My clients are everyday people like you and I. If you look around the grocery store, gym and your workplace these people are my clients. Each single person is unique and comes with his or her own set of circumstances. Also each person has their own set of financial circumstances as well. I believe everyone deserves love and I will work with each person’s specific set of circumstances, both emotional and financial.

“ Losers only use matchmakers.” The age-old stigma of hiring a matchmaker makes you a member of the desperate hearts and lonely souls club is long past. In fact, hiring a matchmaker is the “in” thing to do. There are countless shows on matchmaking (not that they are always an accurate portrayal of what a matchmaker really does). As a matchmaker, I screen out people who are not emotionally ready for a new and healthy relationship; no one wants to meet someone who has too much baggage. The last thing I want to do as a matchmaker is set someone up for failure. I don’t take everyone on , I make sure that they are ready to be committed and open to having me help them thru the process of finding the right person for them. If someone has too many issues that are preventing them from dating successfully I chose to work on those issues first.

 ” If I hire a matchmaker everyone will know.” One of my top priorities as a matchmaker is to protect the confidentiality of our clients. You can expect the same type of confidentiality you would receive under the doctor/patient, lawyer/client relationship. I am here to protect and help you and not to humiliate you.

So, who hires a matchmaker?  Everyday people like you and I hire a matchmaker. People who are busy with their careers and/or family hire a matchmaker. People who don’t want to waste their time browsing through thousands of profiles online only to come out frustrated and dateless, hire a matchmaker. People who are serious and sincere about finding someone special to share their life with hire a matchmaker.

When you need your taxes done, you hire an accountant. When you want to buy a house , you hire a real estate agent. When you have a legal problem, you hire a lawyer. When you are tired of being alone, tired of wasting your time dating the wrong people , YOU hire a matchmaker.  That is what intelligent people do. So before you say you are not interested in hiring a matchmaker, be sure you have all the facts before making that decision.