Are you Quality or Quantity?

24 Sunday Feb 2013

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Everyone, and I mean EVERYONE, ( it seems) has tried online dating…its an addiction. The feeling of having a “dating inbox” that causes you to obsess over what is in it every day, often filling up with sleazy messages like “You look like fun – let’s have some.” Call me crazy, but do you want to go on 30 bad dates in the hopes of having one good one?

 I’ve always been an advocate of quality over quantity.  It was ingrained to me at a very young age by my father who would always say ‘you get what you pay for!’ And let’s face it; it just makes more sense. Those shoes you paid a bit more for will generally last longer.

I still believe in chance meetings, locked eyes across the room, and the thrill of talking to someone in public which gives us that great nervous/ excited feeling.  But I know that with technology that the temptation of looking online and checking your cell phone constantly has taken over. “Something better , something better” is all that you think…..If that doesn’t get you what you are ultimately looking for then you are going to have to try Something different. Only you know what you want.

DON’T

22 Friday Feb 2013

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Don’t use pet names. Don’t “babe,” “baby,” “honey,” “sweetie” anyone too soon. This is a first date. You are not in a relationship so don’t act like you are. Plus it sounds phony and weird!!!Moody_Story10026 

Don’t talk about your ex. If you talk shit on them you’re not over them. If you talk about how awesome they are you are really not over them. You probably can’t talk in any way about your ex so don’t try. The last thing your potential love interest wants to hear about is your last relationship.

Don’t talk about sex.They don’t need to know that you like being dominated and tied up before they even know who you are. And that you read ” 50 Shades of Grey” 3 times…. keep it light—at least until you have had a few more dates.

Leave A Little Mystery!!!!

08 Friday Feb 2013

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A Lot of matchmakers and matchmaking services have different ways they first make a introduction between people. Most just send photos and see which person clicks and then they give the phone number to the one person they want to meet.

I personally don’t like this way I think you should meet before you talk, of course after you have seen photos and your matchmaker feels this person is a good candidate for you. I feel its odd to just call someone you don’t know and expect to get the butterflies that are supposed to happen when you first see someone. When you are out in the world and you see someone that you are attracted to you don’t call them first. You react to the hormones that are going off and turn you on when you look at them.

Like anything else you need to find the service or Matchmaker that works for you , and that gives you a chance to meet someone in the most natural way……..this in the end will give you the best results .

I will put in a lot of time to find someone that you will want to meet …. the excitement you feel before you meet them is well worth the wait. IMG_9406 (2)

Can a 6 get a 10?

11 Friday Jan 2013

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Everyone has an idea who they feel the type of person they should be with. A guy sees a beautiful girl , he wants her. A girl sees a handsome guy, she wants him..But can they get the person they want?…..Of course

…Acknowledge that there’s a wide variety of positive qualities. These days, when someone refers to a man or woman as a “10” or a “5,” of course they’re talking about looks. What that unfortunate numerical rating doesn’t take into consideration are the myriad unseen qualities a person might have to offer—intelligence, sense of humor, generosity, dependability, and so on. Remind yourself that appearance is just one among many traits to evaluate. I believe the barriers in place are only those created in the mind.

I know we all know how Howard stern gets that beautiful girl…I’m sure its not cause he has a great personality. Since he gets a great looking girl is she out of his league or is he out of her league because he is wealthy and famous? Howard Stern intellectually is probably out of a lot of our leagues, but he probably settled at times because he wants HOT….There is a trade off .

So is anyone out of anyone’s league?  No Way…..We all know what we want , and no one can tell us differently. If your a 6 and you want a 10 , get a 10. And if you need help finding a 10…..I will help you find a 10…Who says your a 6 anyway? I think you are a 10.

What did you want to be when you were little? I wanted to be a Matchmaker

10 Thursday Jan 2013

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elleWhen I look at photos of myself when I was younger , its hard to believe where I am at today and how fast I got here.

The one thing in life we all should experience is being in love with someone who loves you back unconditionally. We want our kids to experience love in its purest form with someone.

We want to have fun, laugh and be so attracted to that person we just cant stand it.

We can have all that . I will help you find that.

(Not really sure if I was thinking about being a matchmaker here , I was thinking about something though .)

Should you use a Matchmaker?

10 Thursday Jan 2013

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IMG_9363 (2)Matchmakers Aren’t For All Singles…

Matchmaking is for individuals that can not bear to be approached with dating games and prefer to make a change.

Don’t bother going to a matchmaking company if you have no curiosity in a real relationship.

If your only interested in casual dating, a professional matchmaker will be a useless and waste of valuable time and money. Matchmaking is for singles who are serious about a long-lasting companionship and prefer to do everything in their ability to stop encountering singles who aren’t committed towards a lasting relationship.

Stay clear of matchmaking if you’re broke.

A matchmakers services are an affordable yet meaningful investment in yourself and are not for everyone. Singles that use matchmakers realize that an investment in oneself can be the best decision they can ever make, especially if they are successful and are missing that special someone to share their life with.

Matchmaking isn’t for the pessimistic

If you don’t believe something is going to work out, well guess what, it’s not. Matchmakers work best for individuals that have a positive outlook on life what they’re looking for. You will not find success unless your sure you can. Sometimes matchmakers don’t always get it right the first time around, but if you are open minded and work with their experience, matchmakers can produce surprising results that you would never believe possible.

Above describes the kind of individuals who do not belong at a matchmaking service, but here are a few of the reasons you may want to consider using one. Matchmakers:

* Provide a pre-screening process to help make sure singles are real

* Weed out the undesirable types you would never care to meet

* Focus on relationship minded singles, not casual dater

* Cater to compatibility so you don’t waste time in dead end relationships

* Save you time, energy and effort by doing all the hard work

* Find you wonderful singles you simply wouldn’t find on your own

Matchmakers can truly change your life, but as the saying goes it takes two to tango……

So what are you waiting for, Get yourself a Matchmaker

by Julia McCurley.

Don’t Allow Yourself To Be Attracted To Weakness

04 Friday Jan 2013

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So often in dating we know who the right girls to pursue are and who are absolutely wrong for us.  It’s just a matter of whether we trust our inner voice or instead intend to merely satisfy our “most notable extremity”.

We know when someone genuinely appeals to us intellectually and spiritually and whether there’s potential for something meaningful but as men we often take the path of least resistance or choose the woman who appeals to our hunting instincts instead.  We go after the ones seem the hardest to chase.  The hottest girl at the bar who’s rejecting guys left and right.  The younger girl who says she’s just looking to have fun.  The party girl who jumps from event to event and man to man.  We feel compelled to win their attention.  It’s our competitive male nature.  We want to bring home the shiny trophy, be the Alpha male and the Big Dog all at once.

Once we get that hard to get girl…then what?  It’s boring.  We realize she’s not really that hot or is totally unevolved, boring to talk to and the idea of spending a whole evening with her brings a dread not easily erased no matter how mind-blowing the sex may initially be.

This year try instead to pursue women who are available and opened to receiving you.  Think about who’s going to make you happy in life rather than what’s going to make your privates happy tonight.  If you do it right, those two things do not have to be mutually exclusive.

by mike muson in the unfinished man

http://www.unfinishedman.com/new-years-dating-resolutions-for-the-evolved-man/#more-22891

 

8 Words that Most Liars Use

28 Friday Dec 2012

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“Left”
Sure, sometimes ‘left’ is the only word you can use in a situation, but there’s some kind of drama involved when he uses it in place of another word that will do (think: “I left the bar at six” vs. “I went home at six”). It could be due to his desire to “leave” the lie behind.

“Never”
The big thing to look out for is when he says “never” when “no” will do. It’s a sign he’s overcompensating. For example, if you ask, “Did you just look at that girl’s butt?” and he says, “Never!”

“That”
Like never, it depends on how he uses it. If he puts “that” in front of a noun, like “that woman” or “that money,” it’s a subconscious attempt for him to distance himself from the word. This is a common trick of manipulators.

“Would”
If he skips “no” and goes straight to “I would never do something like that!” when talking about a past event, be wary. For example, “Are you still talking to your ex?” “I would never do that to you!” “Would never” suggests that he plans to do it in the future.

“Yes, ma’am”
If your guy is a Southern gentleman, then this doesn’t apply. But if he suddenly says “ma’am” to you out of nowhere, be cautious. It’s a sign that he feels like he’s feeling stressed and knows he’s in trouble.

“By the way…”
Liars use phrases like this to try to minimize what they say next-but usually it’s what’s most important to the story. Pay extra attention to what he says afterward.

“But”
Liars usually try to downplay what they say with this word, so pay attention when he says something like, “I know this is going to sound strange, but…” or “I know you think I’m lying, but…”

“Why would I do that?”
It’s a favorite stalling line of liars, so they can buy a little time to work out what to say next. These phrases also fit the bill: “What kind of person do you think I am?”, “Are you calling me a liar?”, and “I knew this was going to happen to me!”

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Interview with Joshua Pompey

16 Sunday Dec 2012

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HPIM1922I recently sat down with Joshua Pompey of www.getrealdates.com (link www.getrealdates.com to my site) for a chat on love an matchmaking. Click here for our full interview http://www.getrealdates.com/interview-with-elle-france/, and feel free to check out plenty of free online dating advice from Joshua Pompey by clicking www.getrealdates.com/online-dating-tips-for-men

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